There is always hope. No one knows which mlcers will return to their marriages or even years later want to reconcile w/their separated/divorced spouses. The key is to hope, but continue moving forward w/your own life.
Many of the posters who have managed to salvage their relationships w/their spouses do not return to post. The final 12-18 months of the crisis takes up a lot of their time because it is a very delicate tightrope for them to walk.
However, here are a few: Jack and Three Beans, Albuquerque, DebM and JeanS.
The most important ingredients for you, as the lbs are: patience. compassion, unconditional love, patience, hope, no expectations while they are traveling the universe, patience, giving them plenty of space and time, and more patience.
Keep in mind that you didn't break him therefore, you can't fix him. You can only work on yourself. Start making a list of those hobbies and chores that you have allowed to sit and begin working on them. Keep the focus on you and watch your assets.
One last thing, buckle up...the ride is not the faint of heart. It is full of potholes, twists and turns that will cause you to doubt yourself, your marriage and your h. However, only you will know if your life w/him was memorex or live.
Take care!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
