Here was a comment by AJM in a thread that I started in the MLC forum:

Originally Posted By: AJM
In your case, the idea is to find a way through the walls she built up sooner than later. Without being pushy or threatening.


And a comment by Snodderly in this thread:

Originally Posted By: Snodderly
As I mentioned earlier, space, time, unconditional love and compassion are what you can give her right now. Be a friend and when she feels "safe" to talk to you, she will.


This makes sense to me, and is how I have been moving forward, instead of "dropping the rope" which to me sounds like leaving her to flounder on her own. I even told her a while back that I was here for her because that's what spouses are supposed to do for each other during tough times, and it's how we've made it together this far.

I'm still monitoring and expecting the roller coaster to do some more laps...

Thoughts, comments, encouragement and 2x4's are always appreciated! Thanks for checking in.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl