wishing, He's a "Disney Dad" right now. He wants to look like Mr. Wonderful and that's why he made such a big deal of going to the pumpkin farm and carving the pumpkins.
If he's not there by 4:15 and you are ready to take the children trick or treating...go. Do not wait for him. He's the one that told you 4:00. Don't waffle or slide on the time. He needs to learn that when he states a time, he needs to be prompt and no one is going to wait around for him.
Have fun this evening!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.