Husband (unfaithful) just told me he wants out.

[PeteWyo]

Bestgal, in one word, you need to DETACH. Have you read the book yet? It might put some of this in to perspective yet. I read DB and it all made more sense. I am going to read DR as well as it now pertains to my situation. Don't detach from your H. Detach from your strong feelings about this and for him. It may save you a lot of grief and then you can actually do your 180s for you.