OM just showed up at the house. Guess last night was just her seeing if I was still talking to her. Not sure how to handle this.
That is tough man. Were you there? At some point, you are going to have to have some boundaries. Don't let her get some of her needs met by you, and others met by OM.
Moving back into the house WITH her would not be a good idea right now, IMO. Sometimes, the physical separation is good. My point is that she needs to pay her way. She is choosing a path that will eventually lead to D if not changed. She needs to have a chance to see what that means.
I think that so many WAS's have a delusional idea in their heads about what life will be like without the LBS. Some think that they will have the same life style financially, some think that all of their unhappiness is going to go away, some think that their LbS is going to be their friend, etc. One thing that I learned is that I had to let my W get a glimpse of what life would be like without me. That was hard, and sometimes I didn't do it well. But what I was able to do in that regard was important to W finally coming around.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
