I have told my girls life isn't fair. Don't really need to, they are old enough to know. They both have had some hard times. They are both really smart girls and I'm so grateful they are older and not little.
Yeah, that whole "fair" thing didn't come out right for me. My boys were rushing me. I didn't mean it to pertain to your kids, I just meant it to pertain to the whole rotten sitch.
LBS's can spend a lot of time soul searching for "why". And sometimes there isn't a clear answer to "why". Sometimes it just is what it is. (Especially for MLC - which I don't know if it applies to your sitch or not.) But when there's not an obvious "why", too much time can be spent stewing over minute details of the sitch because we think WE MUST FIND THE REASON. A "reason" will make us "understand", and make the whole sitch more rational, more fair. But its not fair. And we can't really expect it to BE fair.
That's what I meant to say before - it doesn't really pertain to your kids, I was just thinking about how kids will complain "Its not fair!" And parents will often answer "Life's not fair". So now we have to opportunity to show our kids how we deal with a life that has turned so terribly "not fair".
I'm glad you have an "on site" friend who has some experience with this whole awful thing. That helps a lot. You definitely are NOT alone, this happens way way too much, but often it is hidden, not talked about.
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Maybe he'll be able to find some time to think about you and miss you. :o)
Mmmmmmm ..... thank you T. But this is what I CAN'T EXPECT. It would be nice sure. But its very unlikely - so extremely unlikely, and expecting it even a tiny tiny bit would open me up for more hurt.
Keep reading! Work to heal yourself 1st! It will get better, just not nearly fast enough.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
