Both. But I think that means that you have to put yourself first financially and then think about your children's future, instead of giving the W whatever she wants. The lawyer will fight for what she wants....and this is not the time to try and win any brownie points by sacrificing the kids’ education or putting yourself into major debt in order to make her more comfortable.
That may sound kind of harsh, but you have to protect you and the kids now.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
