Dont know about being wise, but, I have been in this rodoe quite awhile. LOL!
And yes, it is absolutely possible that your h did not complete his crisis the first time and is back in the tunnel.
And I understand completely about whether or not you should stand and for how long.
This is what I felt. I loved my h. Unconditionally. The MLC didnt give him a free pass. He was still responsible for his actions. But, in my mind, if I loved him, then a couple of things were true for me.
I loved him enough that I wanted to know that I left no stone unturned in trying to save my marriage. I knew that for me I needed to feel that I did everything I could.
And I loved him enough to let him go to walk his path. I promised myself to do no harm. I also promised that I would do nothing to harm the relationship between him and our child.
I can see in you a person of substance. And you will know you are ready to no longer stand. You will not have a doubt in your mind.
I will try to check out TJP. I am working three jobs at the moment (my finances are a still a mess from all this) so I dont always have a lot of time to post.
