About the damned comment...She was upset that I was going to take her, when I asked if that was something important for her to do, she gave me the money comment. I am reminded of something Sandi2 told me awhile back, and that is to slow down a bit, and think before I act or speak. So it is another fine line to walk as far not caring what she thinks, but still be considerate of how she might take something.
Since you mentioned that your W had taken your daughter before, I don't think the simple act of you taking D there is unacceptable in and of itself. The context you do it in is what matters. (Now in all honesty, just talking to you "bro to bro", that's not something I'd have personally had any interest in doing, but, nothing makes me happier than to see a smile on my daughter's face, so to each their own on how they achieve that.)
Either way, you must set ground rules with your W when it comes to activities and experiences with your kids. I feel uncomfortable at this point about giving you any kind of recommendations because what has worked very well for myself and my XW may not work nearly as well for you and your W depending on variables in your situation. But you have to know where the other person stands, or the kids will just get caught up in the middle of it. The good intentions you will have (seeing a smile on your daughters face) at the onset will be dwarved by the sad and angry expressions on everyone's face that follows at the end of it all.
Bottom line is, you don't want to surprise your W when it comes to your kids, which is what I think you did here. This is the slowing down part Sandi is talking about. You shouldn't care about what she thinks as far YOU individually are concerned, but it's different with your kids. You've got to, just as you'd want her to for you.
M-34 XW-32 D-7 Found OM's presence 4/09 Separated 12/09 Divorced 8/10 GREAT relationship as coparents since 8/10
