Oh, and UrWorthy, could you check out a newbie, TJP? She's in newcomers and posted a couple times on my first thread... I think she could use some input from, as you call yourself, "an oldtimer".

Cheers!

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.