sometimes responses here are slow to come. Sometimes MUCH TOO SLOW if you're in pain and feeling extra-alone. I've noticed many many more views than responses, maybe 10 to 1 or even greater. So, the more you post the more responses you'll get!
Check out other's threads and leave comments. Even if you don't have advice, you can still sympathize and that's always nice for that other person to read. That's how I found you - because you posted on my thread. I didn't recognize your name so checked your posts/ "topics started" and read your story.
It will even help you to help others by posting. Even if the help isn't "advice" but just "I feel your pain. Sorry you are having troubles" etc. You will matter to others, and make them feel they matter too!
Try to put more focus on you you you. The 180's are meant to be for YOUR benefit, NOT his. Don't change something just because HE wants it changed, only if YOU want to change that area.
I think its fine to avoid friends that are downers, especially at this raw time of your life. But don't avoid all friends! Doesn't mean you have to share the details, just spend time with those who are "uppers".
I find it helpful to "live in the moment" for right now. The thought of the holidays gives me the willies, so I don't think about the M in conjunction with them. I think how I would like to decorate the house, what cookies I want to bake, etc. I want to make them extra special this year!!
And as for H missing out on stuff... well too bad for him. That's what I thought last night. In the cold. In the rain. In the cold rain lol. My son's team beat a school they don't often beat!! And I got to see it !! H didn't. Yes, its hard on the kids. NO, its not fair. LIFE'S NOT FAIR. Ever said that to your kids? I know I have... but just make the best of each day, each minute.
I have started a new thread "Together Separate II"
!! H didn't. Yes, its hard on the kids. NO, its not fair. LIFE'S NOT FAIR. Ever said that to your kids? I know I have... but just make the best of each day, each minute.
