I believe the MLCer is oblivious to the damage and suffering that occurs to the LBS and children in the beginning of their journey. They are much to focused on themselves.
As the LBS gains strength and confidence and starts managing their lives regardless of what the MLCer thinks or is even aware of is what sometimes draws the MLCer to at least look back and maybe even question the choices and decisions they've made.
It seems to be as the LBS stabilizes, the shoe of pain and suffering eventually switches to the foot of the MLCer.
It takes a long time for the MLCer to move in any direction if at all. During that time what is generally seen are just peeks from out of the tunnel.
I realize this isn't what all MLCer's do, just what I've observed in H 3 years from BD and from what I've heard and read from other LBS sitches.
Tad, you can hold on to your hope as long as you decide to. The trick is to not let it interfere with moving forward. I can tell you that knowing someone is still stuck and wallowing in their misery is not attractive. Making the best of the situation you're handed is. Thriving and not just surviving is key.
I am still standing after 3 years. One thing I'm not doing is letting the sitch keep me from moving forward. That way I'm prepared for any direction.
