Cadet - that is really terrific - thank you for finding it and re-posting it.
I hope it will be helpful to all of us here - as with the MLCers, constantly taking our emotional temperature isn't a good idea, but checking where we are, and how we are slipping between the stages, but moving towards the end goal of living again can be helpful. And this is a very good guide imho
I found the distinction between resentment and anger very helpful - I very occasionally still feel a stab, but now it is quickly followed with a shrug, and 'Oh well'. The most recent was over my youngest son's valuable piano which I have arranged to have looked after . . . . until he can have it in his own home. All that stuff tends to fall to the LBS - although, and this is interesting, my xh did display a degree of interest . . . .
Mostly I believe I am in the latter stages - resentment is as far back as I slip, and that not often!
Recently I have been exploring the less attractive side of my own character - not in a self blaming way, but looking at the things that are not so healthy, and how I would now do them differently if I was in that position again - not with respect to my marriage, but my life generally.
My own journey is not yet over, but I am on the road.
Cadet, thank you so much for all you do on resources to bring to our attention the valuable lessons that others have learned and posted. Your over-view is awesome.
