I think I see the picnic!

[mamabird]

Vero, I triple that. Anger can be really productive but it can also be really destructive. I know I had a lot of anger built up over the years and I am working on letting it go. I have let go of a lot of it, honestly, and now I want to focus on not letting it build up again. Meditation has been helpful for me to replace the crappy feelings with loving ones.

It was good of you to speak to your H directly and honestly, even if you did get angry. As you continue to have these conversations you won't feel so angry, and if you can figure out a way to deal with the anger or the HURT in the moment, you may be able to come up with a new, more constructive approach. As you go through this process you are becoming more aware of your own behavior and your own patterns and that means you can turn it around that much more quickly. Your H will see this over time.

I would love to get together with you and KG sometime so let me know how you figured that out.