Chasing Ghosts

[Beardown]

Denver,
Thank you very much for taking the time to read my sitch. I admire your tenacity and you give all of us hope that our marriages can be saved. Thank you for paying it forward.

I took my wedding vows seriously and believe we are in a bad time but would hard work and patience we can get through this. My W and had an amazing first few years and strongly believe we can get that back.

Trust is going to be the hardest part. This past year, she has lived a lie. We will have plenty to work on to build that trust back.

I understand while the OM is in the picture our marriage is a distant memory. I am ok with that for now because I have made great strides in working on me. I found my inner happiness. I took stepped back and really dissected these past few years and know when things went south, what I did to contribute and what she failed to do to help the situation. We both have different love languages and we tried to show our love the way we wanted to be loved. I wish I would have seen that before.

I am not the most religious person in the world but since I found out about the OM I have felt a presence around me ever since. Call me crazy but it is a calming presence that has allowed me to really focus on the task at hand rather than waist emotions on anger and revenge. My gut tells me to keep the faith that this will have a happy ending just like it told me that their was trouble a few months ago.