Paperwork almost done, but not me!

[Grocerykartman]

Eyes,

Catching up on your posts tonight. Looks like you've had a confusing day or 2 here. For whatever it's worth, here's what I think:

Not exactly sure, but I feel I am on the edge of something. I think I might be at the point of really letting go. It is a bit confusing, at the same time it feels good. Almost like I can really start focusing on myself, really start living again. I am positive that it needs to happen. And I am still positive that I love my w and I want my family whole again.

Ok, good self introspection, your mood seems pretty good, all the while still realizing you ultimately want your family element to remain intact as the ultimate goal.

But then...

Letter to my w,...

WHOA?!? 21 hours ago you posted those positive minded thoughts. Now you're writing letters to her...did you actually send this letter or just journal it here?

I am really frustrated right now, she literally got upset when I told her that I was going to take my daughter to get her nails done while my son was at a b-day party. She said that is a mom and daughter thing. I said we are both parents now. I think she misinterpreted that and said what she doesn't have a mom. I told her I meant that we each fill both roles now.

I read through all the posts up through your response to Sandi before I started typing this. Just a couple questions for you:

1. I know you said you took your D once to get her nails done post bomb. Had her mom ever taken her to do that pre bomb?

2. I recall earlier in your first link you talked about her suggesting taking the kids to a play together as a family and that the idea of that was perplexing to you at the time. The nails event, though basically dissimilar to the play, now begs to me the question: When it comes to activities with your kids, have you and she established any ground rules?

The last couple of interactions were pretty much damned if you do, and damned if you don't.

Time to start living for me!

I noticed in the same post, you wrote these 2 things.

Again, a couple questions for you.

1. Just out of curiosity, WHAT do you feel you were damned if you did and damned if you didn't about?

2. I get that your were very completely frustrated by how this went. But the heart of the exchange was about your daughter, right? That was the issue. You then wrote, "Time to start living for me!" Why the transition to you?