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mrsrjd...Tough love to me doesn't mean leaving a child/teen behind! Tough love is holding them accountable for their behavior but not abandonment. I guess there are situations where you finally just have to let them go but to me it would have to be a pretty extreme situation.

Mine is coming back tomorrow. He told me earlier in the week that he might stay until Sunday. Well funny thing, he actually booked a flight home for Sunday and even booked another night at a hotel near the airport. What he didn't realize is that he booked the flight from HERE to the city is he in right now. HA! I almost fell on the floor laughing when I saw that. Luckily he didn't cancel his original returning flight for Saturday and finally must have noticed his error. Yesterday he cancelled the Sunday flight and sent me a message today. It read something to the effect of, "How would you like to meet me at around 4:15 tomorrow when XYZ flight 123 arrives?" I thought about it for about 15 minutes and decided that his invitation was similar to what would happen in the "old days" so I played along. I responded with "where would you like me to meet you and how will I recognize you". It's a little game we would play and I definitely won't go into the details but.....we had 3 or 4 exchanges and then I threw in the comment that my lunch date wanted to know who I was texting. He immediately asked me WHO my lunch date was. I waited a bit and told him that I couldn't disclose that and that it wouldn't be appropriate (still playing the game of course). I haven't heard from him since! LOL He either got distracted or he isn't very happy. Guess I'll find out later tonight when he would usually text me or tomorrow when I pick him up.

I don't envy you having to deal with your H after his comments. I can only imagine the things that he found out. I hope it's nothing that throws him deeper into Mr. Grumpy Pants. Why can't they just go to counseling and talk to someone who knows how to help them???? Try to stay calm and hope for the best. I haven't been on here long enough to give any advice but I'll be thinking about you.

I like your comment...rebel without a clue. Perfect term for him, REBEL. He really has been a rebel for most of his life but not in an obnoxious way. He stands behind his beliefs and pretty much follows no ones rules. He's been very successful with that approach at his jobs and has done very well with it. Now he is pushing the rebel attitude to the limit and hurting people without regard to their feelings. I've noticed it with one of the kids who has the same syndrome as he does. She marches to the beat of a different drummer. The two of them have had several confrontations lately that have ended with one of them hanging up on the other. He's doesn't see that his behavior is exactly the same as hers.

I probably will have to curb my postings after he's comes home but don't give up on me. I'll get on as often as I can to post updates and get advice if things get too difficult.