Are you asking me for the signs of progress I see?
I have achieved many of the relationship goals I had set.
- W no longer seems to have anger or blame towards me. - W seems to be getting more and more comfortable in my presence. - Our communication has improved dramatically, to the point where W feels she can open up to me about her feelings. - W has often spoken about her regrets on how she has handled the sitch so far and on some of her decisions. - W has initiated more and more convos and meetings. I never initiate anything. Not even texts on the phone unless it is logistical, and even then, only if I absolutely have to. - W has shown more interest in my life and in D8. - W has noticed and mentioned how my changes have affected the way D8 interact and communicates with me.
As far as "what" is working, my list of 180s is probably too long to mention again but a few of the major issues I've so far successfully tackled are:
- No more passive aggressive behaviour - No more judging or criticizing - No more anger - No more trying to control or manipulate people - More patience - A lot more listening and validating - No more "needing to be right" - No more "trying to fix things" - More empathy - More understanding and acceptance of local culture
Sorry Starsky. I'm not sure if this is what you were asking.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
