Husband (unfaithful) just told me he wants out.

[PeteWyo]

Bestgal, that is a tough situation. It stinks that it ended in an argument when it could have been a civil discussion. It sounds from what you are saying he might think you have tried to control him. Have you? My W thinks the same thing about me. Now we didn't fight about it and all I was doing was giving my opinion on what she should do. It turns out she has a huge fear of confrontation and wouldn't have an opinion because she was afraid to get into a fight, which wouldn't have happened. But I digress, it doesn't sound like that has a whole lot to do with your situation. But the similarity that I draw is that he feels threatened and you guys have a communication problem. He sees your comments as controlling or threatening even though that might not be your intention. This might be a perception issue too. Have you guys talked about going to a MC? It's not for every situation but if you guys can learn to communicate effectively it could alleviate some of the tension.