Separating Inevitable

[littleGTO]

Talked to my SIL tonight--I thank my lucky stars I have a few good family/friends to talk to (other than all the great people here). HOwever, they each do have biased views.

MY SIL thinks just about EVERYTHING my H has done/said since BD in June has shown he is interested in pursuing a life/R with OW. He told me..he told his family (including his very sick mother)....he was forced to tell my parents (circumstancially) and tomorrow we are telling our 3 boys he is moving out next weekend.

She says I need to "let him go" (which I will interpret to mean GAL), since I refuse to give up HOPE. I desparately need specific advice how to GAL when I have 3 busy boys & now my attention and time will need to focus even more on them.

I do go to the gym regularly. I do go out w friends about once a month (but that's it). I do not have many hobbies (other than biking/working out) and I use to scrapbook (but that is just spending hours on family pictures of happier times together & I just can't go there right now).

I need thoughts to help me detach & GAL as he gets ready to walk (as he is currently out shopping for a brand-new HD-TV and a couch for his aptmt).

We are telling the boys tomorrow late afternoon. I need all the words of encouragement and support, as I think this will be one of the hardest moments I will ever go through (I will try to be strong for the boys, but tears are inevitable for me).

Going out w a GF tonight for drinks, so at least it appears I am GAL a little.

ANy words of advice how to handle the next few weeks!