I can't push her to do it. She needs to be the one to end the A and ask to work on our marriage.
All of that is good. You need to be working on that stuff during this time apart from your W.
No. You cannot push her to end the A and work on the M. You can't make her do it. Nor can you expedite the process. That is why Patience and Time are two of the most important things here.
I also want to comment on the house situation.
What is your current living situation?
I do not think that it is good that you are paying for 1/2 of the mortgage under the circumstances. I suggest that you have a strong but polite conversation about this and give her two options. 1) She continues to live in the house but takes on the full mortgate, or 2) you move into the house, she moves out, and you pay the full mortgage.
She needs to have a chance to see the consequences of the choices that she is making. It is not to punish, not to teach, but to ALLOW her to see reality. The reality of what happens if the two of you D.
She will probably say no to both options, and that is fine for the time being. She will be put on notice that she can't continue to live on both sides of the fence. You can end the conversation by saying, 'well, you need to think about this, because we can't continue to do it this way for much longer." Or something like that.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
