Back to Square One?

[Wendylon]

H still not home. I'm worried that he's with POW and/or drinking and that I'll feel and act distant when he gets back. I will have trouble believing what time his train really got in.

He'll start saying that I look as if something's up and he'll get defensive and it will be a downward spiral. What really gets me going is when he asks me questions that he'd know the answer to if he'd listened to me earlier in the day. I have a really hard time not letting him know that I've already answered his questions. He then thinks that I'm treating him as if he is an idiot.

I have lots of patience with S13 who is very severely impaired so it's much more straightforward. I have very little with H who is meant to be all there!

He HATES feeling that I'm critical of him. He goes on about how in my eyes he can never get it right, how he's never felt loved by me, that I just don't get him and never will, that he's given up on me ever understanding him, etc... All this to say that I'm wondering if any of you can see how I can 180 some of these complaints.

I feel that he tries my patience and then blames me for getting irritated with him.