Hey Arsene! I'm glad to read about your PMA over the conversation yesterday.
You know, maybe you didn't follow DB/DR to the exact letter, but you know what? It's all about doing what works for YOU.
If you truly feel good about your role in the conversation and how it all ended up at the end of the night... That's what this is all about... DB is just as much about healing YOURSELF as it is your M, and it seems like you're on track there.
Now, if you're anything like me, expect a bit of a dip in mood over the next day or so, but don't let it discourage you... and more importantly, don't let a "backslide" in your emotions lead to a backslide in your actions.
IMO, I think the conversation was a great and positive sign... Her opening up with things that she has/had buried deep, talking of a future that MIGHT have you involved in it... light conversation mixed with the heavier stuff... These are all good things...
And they're all things that my W did a couple weeks ago too...
SO again, as long as you take this for what it is, a POSSIBLE baby-step, and NOTHING MORE, you'll be fine... You've built a foundation for future conversations... she knows that opening up to you won't necessarily end apocalypticly, and maybe, just maybe, the seed of doubt has been planted (or watered or wherever we are on that particular metaphor) as to her current direction in life.
Or maybe not. No one but her knows that.
So don't get too high on the highs of the conversation, or too low on the lows. Tomorrow is another day and another opportunity to grow.
