Basically, I am in the same position as you are. We have papers filed though, but our county require mediation. I, too, am going as dim as possible with the schedule for the children. I think that this will be good for both my W and me.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013