I think I have read that before. It's too bad my w doesn't have the patience to hold on. For the most part I have a decent job of DBing. I know it isn't final yet, but even if it gets there I hope she will realize that she isn't any happier. And hopefully it isn't too late.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
I think I have read that before. It's too bad my w doesn't have the patience to hold on. For the most part I have a decent job of DBing. I know it isn't final yet, but even if it gets there I hope she will realize that she isn't any happier. And hopefully it isn't too late.
I couldn't possibly agree with this statement any more. We just have to remember that in the end that those of us fighting for our M will hopefully be better people in the end, no matter what happens.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
I am with you buddy. My W doesn't have the patience to hold on either, but then I again, she tried for years. In my case, I think that she hit the number where she couldn't forgive again.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Nice!!! Quite encouraging. A good motivation to stay the course.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Not exactly sure, but I feel I am on the edge of something. I think I might be at the point of really letting go. It is a bit confusing, at the same time it feels good. Almost like I can really start focusing on myself, really start living again. I am positive that it needs to happen. And I am still positive that I love my w and I want my family whole again.
Heres to hoping that I am not posting how miserable I am two days from now.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Nor unlikely mate but that's ok, enjoy the good times when you get them. Cheers!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Over the last couple months I have come to truly understand how difficult this has been for you. Certainly not at the same degree, but nonetheless I do understand. I have been trying to hold on to our marriage and our family, but I feel like all my efforts have fallen on deaf ears. I can only imagine how difficult it was to go through that for so long.
You are an amazing woman and mother, and I will cherish all that you have done for me, and all that you have shown me. I wish you nothing but the best on your quest for happiness. I am always here for you if you need someone to lean on, or just a ear to vent to.
I am really frustrated right now, she literally got upset when I told her that I was going to take my daughter to get her nails done while my son was at a b-day party. She said that is a mom and daughter thing. I said we are both parents now. I think she misinterpreted that and said what she doesn't have a mom. I told her I meant that we each fill both roles now.
2 minutes after she left, she called to see if I had talked to a mediator. I told her I had and said, that since this isn't what I want I will give you the number and you can take it from there. As far as I am concerned the cage does not even exist any longer.
For her sake I hope she can work through her resentment towards me.
And for me I have to figure out how to go as dim as possible in light of our parenting schedule.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Basically, I am in the same position as you are. We have papers filed though, but our county require mediation. I, too, am going as dim as possible with the schedule for the children. I think that this will be good for both my W and me.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I guess she just needed to remind me of how unhappy she is.
Had to call her at work to ask if she had gotten a present for the birthday, again she brought up the painting of my d's nails. I said if it is that important to you, we will find something else to do. Then I get the I save my money, I don't spend it on things like that. I can paint them at home. I just said okay.
Is it normal that I am starting to find humor in this behaivor.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
