Kinda figured I'd get that response on the birthday message! I'm not decided on doing it for certain, but it just seems "right" to at least send a three word "Happy Birthday W" email... Interested in the reactions to that as the day gets closer!
Think of it this way. You will expend more energy thinking about it and wondering how it was received than it is actually worth. Since you will not be partaking in any birthday events with her or spending the night with her.... ignore it.
And since you think that all messages need a ton of thought I see no difference in this than with a U 2 Wife message.....
Best to allow her the opportunity to contact you on that day or a few days later. One of those. Consequences of your actions. A wondering if you are going to contact her. Gives her a chance to think about you.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
I'm not decided on doing it for certain, but it just seems "right" to at least send a three word "Happy Birthday W" email... Interested in the reactions to that as the day gets closer! 
