Why can't I say no! W called and asked for a favor. She told me she had the chance to go to a professional sporting event Thursday and asked if I would take our S since it's her night to have him. She wants to exchange for another night. I know she will end up with the OM for this event and I should stop being their for her every time she needs something. I can't detach from favors and it's driving me nuts. Any tips, I tried saying I was busy but she wanted to know what I was doing and saw right through it. She knows I will do anything for her so back on the yo yo! Not happy with myself right now.
Disclaimer: This is just what I did and may be the wrong way to go at it, but I have been in the same situation. I basically just said I didn't have any plans and agreed to have S for the sake of me and S, but told her it wouldn't mean automatically exchanging days. That way she knows I'm doing it for me and S, and in the short run she might end up losing that day. Realistically though, I probably need to exchange sooner or later.
May sound stupid but at first I was afraid to be viewed as her babysitter, enabling her to live her life. I won't let that stand in the way of me spending time with S though, that's far more important.
Or you could try to actually be busy. That way you don't have time to do her favors and since you're telling the truth there is nothing to see through.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
