I have not given the lawyer idea much thought. Never had to, I guess I am hoping that it will not get to that. Are you saying its good idea to do that earlier than wait until she starts that ball in motion.
I asked her last night about trial S. She seemed surprise, she said all that I have told you tonight and your still wanting to stay married to me? Yea duh..
You may want to talk with a Lawyer before you sign any informal agreements. Just to know what your rights are...
Another thing to think about....
If you DO see a lawyer, I would pick the meanest SOB around to consult with...
Maybe even do a consult with 3 or 4 of the toughest ones in your area....
That way, if anything come your way, legally, she can't use them against you.
Keep in mind, you are only consulting a Lawyer so that you know your rights.
You are protecting your best interests throughout this process.
You should never use any of that to go on the offensive with her. Nor should you tell her that you did see a Lawyer.
Don't confuse the legal side of things with the emotional side of things. And that is what you are seeing now.
To her, she is already emotionally divorced from you, and the "legal" side is the only thing keeping her from being free.
