Hi Labug- I DO appreciate you pointing this out because I don’t even realize I am doing it. Your right, I would like to see her but I am being honest when I say it would be odd.
One of my friends who is going out with us is dressing up as Joe Dirt. I feel bad for the dog in that movie, ouch. Anyway, tonight's going to be a hoot. Then I am going to another costume party with my kids on Saturday night.
It's great I am being proactive to expand my network of friends because a lot of them were on the back burner for so long because I spent so much of my time with W.
It’s going to be a great weekend. I hope all you good people have a fun weekend.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Financial- As I was growing up I was never given any financial management skills, unfortunately it’s been a really steep learning curve. I am finally paying all my bills on time and I am doing it myself, something I haven’t done for years. I am not taking on additional debt and I’ve met with a financial advisor several times. I am learning to budget and I am much more cautious with my spending. I’ve finally become very cost conscious. I have a lot more respect for my money and I’ve come to understand that I don’t need to buy things for instant gratification. I’ve got myself on a couple of payment plans with creditors. I’ve become more responsible and I don’t brush these things under the rug anymore.
Hi Rough, I've been following your thread as there are some fantastic posters and questions being asked in here, so I'm trying to learn from the masters too
Just a quick comment on the finances. I didn't get the financial management skills either growing up; however, I discovered Dave Ramsey 5 years ago, but have really been putting his words to use now. One of the most powerful things I did in this situation was to get my financials straight. I did every single type of budget for every circumstance. It made me feel more in control of my life just knowing that at least ONE area was secure and I was going to be okay with or without H.
Dave's got some great budgeting sheets for free - tells you what % of your income should be in each category, and a show on most AM stations. Even during this mess with 1/2 my income gone, I've been able to get 2/3rds of my credit debt paid off.
I used to be a financial ostrich, now it's my favorite topic
Me& h + S M: 13 t: 14
H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my! I'm done. 12/12
"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba
I misunderstood, I read that you thought it would be odd to run into her in a place she frequents. Now I think you meant you would feel odd seeing her.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I misunderstood, I read that you thought it would be odd to run into her in a place she frequents. Now I think you meant you would feel odd seeing her.
MAYBE but the way he wrote it I thought he meant to say it's "NOT a place she frequents so it'd be odd to see her". IF IT IS a place she frequents, it'd be LIKELY to see her...!!!
So do you mean, it'd FEEL WEIRD to see her? Then don't go!
Why are you going if you don't want to feel "odd" or weird or bad? Don't go if you can't handle it AND expect her to wear something YOU find too revealing, okay?
But once that dress uniform is on YOU, (I'm a veteran and my h has been deployed to the Middle East for awhile now--SIGH)
YOU wear it with pride and confidence.
No drinking so much that you puke on it,
OR make a scene with your wife. NO SIR! Behave with Honor, strength and dignity while in uniform
(hey, and maybe behave that^^^^ way just in general?)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Hi Bug, Lio and 25- I will need to look into that finance guy, thanks a lot. 25, what a great post, it's a super fun outfit to wear, we had a really fun night!!!! We ended up going to a different place and I didnt see W. Good times and some GAL pictures to post. Another party tonight, this time I am taking the kids so it won't be as wild.
Very cool unbidden, that's awesome! As most of you know, GAL is so important. It’s been a tremendous help and I am really lucky to have a great group of friends.
By the way, my mom and dad have been married for over 40 years and unfortunately my dad passed away a little over a year ago. He had a sudden heart attack the day after his 63rd birthday. My mom's had a hard time transitioning since his passing. She lives about 15 minutes away from me. Since both of us have had major transitions in our lives it's allowed us to forge a stronger relationship. I’ve made a lot of headway within the last month. Things are still very tough but I am in a better place.
Glad to hear that mate. It does sound like you're moving forward. Cheers my friend.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Hooooah. I'm former JAG Army myself Love those dress blues ....
what???? Me too! Army JAG Corps 5 years active (H was in the medical corps b/c he owed for med school, and as they say, "if you can't beat 'em, join 'em") and then
I had to get out to the "real world" or be assigned to a different area. (But no complaints-not many civilian jobs "Promise" to keep couples together for 20+ years)
The part I miss the most is the comraderie and feeling a sense of belonging to a cause greater than oneself, or one client or case.
Rough, you're in SUCH good hands...OURS!!!
Glad you avoided the w, not b/c you "HAD TO" but b/c GAL is NOT about running into her...
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
