NLW - Thank you for the post and support and for the Pema recommend. I know how much other friends here have benefited from reading her, so I will check it out.

I wish I felt as patient and as graceful as you describe it. I think once I reach complete detachment and acceptance and this whole process is not painful to me, then I will feel like I have arrived.

Hugs to you. I know you are also going through rough times right now.

Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D