New Here - The Practicalities of Being A Friend

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Of course, he just finished mentioning that he and OW were thinking of moving in together, so exactly how was he going to talk to me every night? I think she might mind

That made me laugh Portia. It just shows how convoluted the brain of an MLCer is.

I think some of your answers may come with time. You're just going to have to pay close attention to what is and isn't working for your sitch.

I'd say definitely give him the impression that everything is coming up rainbows for you - people are drawn to happiness.

Remember, and this one is SO HARD, to have no expectations. You seem to be a person of great action - you come across to me as very dynamic. I think you (as we all do more or less) are still expecting to say "the right words" to make all this go away. You have to let go of that idea. See the quote above? THAT IS NOT A RATIONAL MIND. You cannot reason with that mind.

Would that type of contact be better than none at all?

You have to answer that question.