Do not talk about the ow. She is absolutely nothing but a bandaid to his wound. The more you talk about her or try to find out things about her from him, the more protective he will be of her. Don't give her space in your head...she's not paying rent.
Thanks, Snodderly.
I am trying.
This is so much easier said than done! I posted on someone else's thread that I agreed and absolutely understood her anger that if there were problems or whatever, why bring in the OW before the BD but deny her to your last breath until you were caught red-handed? Why the hiding and the constant lies and more lies? Justified by "I wanted to ease you into this" and "I believed not telling you was a white lie to keep from hurting you." So contradictory! Did he really think that the existence of OW was something I could be "eased into"? Seriously?
