Da-mit. Insert long list of obscenities here. I can handle his depression. I can handle him working through these issues. But, WHY THE OW? WHY? WHY can't he do this alone? Why can't I ask him to do this alone? For me? I will do everything suggested. I will back off and leave him to his whatever. But, why did he invite someone into our marriage?
If I could scream right now, I would scream bloody murder. She is a bi---- and it hurts me so badly and he knows it hurts me. Why can't I just say--- Go have your Replay, your adolescence but just get rid of her until or if we actually divorce. Why can't I, at least say that and have him hear me. It's soooooo f-----g unfair. I didn't deserve this. My kids didn't deserve this. Why?
I know exactly how you feel. It is so much easier said than done to not let the OW have space in our heads. But to drop the bomb on me, lying that she was even in the picture and ten finding out that probably was exactly why he felt he was able to drop the bomb because they were already together. As long as they were only flirting, I did not have to know. Castration does not seem too harsh.
I then I remember how much I miss my best friend and it hurts worse. Must start working harder on detaching.
