Thank you everyone for your responses and kindness.
Thank you, Snodderly. I have been reading Cadet's links - some more than once! But MRS. hit the nail right on the head:
Originally Posted By: mrsrjd
Your sitch seems a little unique to me. From what you've said, you were the one who kept distance?
The challenge comes attempting to do a 180 which for you would mean to get closer to your MLCer BUT DB says give the MLCer space. Definitely a tricky feat.
I am taking this week for me, but if I want to at least be open to the possibility or chance that this MLC phase will pass and that we can make a life together, I need to try.
There are lots of suggestions for the "pursuers" - keep a low profile, no touching, etc. but there are very few actual suggestions for us distancers. Lots of "DON'Ts" but not many "DOs". I am already learning my lessons in patience and "this is not within your control". Very hard lessons for me!
And here is another question: When I asked how he sees this "friendship" going, he said he saw us talking and discussing like we used to over the phone after his work and that he was hoping that I would get a cell phone again so that we could text each other and work on our friendship that way. Of course, he just finished mentioning that he and OW were thinking of moving in together, so exactly how was he going to talk to me every night? I think she might mind! That aside, I know that one of the things the DR book says is "try a different medium" but my concern is that our contact will then be reduced to texting and nothing else. Would that type of contact be better than none at all?
Feeling a little stupid today. I know how to be a friend. But I sure don't know how to be an MLCers friend.
Thanks again everybody.
MRS. - I visited your thread and I am so sorry for your situation - yours is close and mine is far away - and I think both our situations reek. My posts take awhile to show up since I am still new but I will drop you a line when I can.
