This journey is not for the faint of heart. It is a journey of pain, sorrow, loss, growing and learning as we walk it. We will learn the art of patience, compassion and love unconditionally. We will learn to "ask" for help when we need it.
Most people who post here are "fixers". We will learn that there are going to be times when we can't fix the problem and that's where it is the most difficult...learning that we can't fix the mlcer. We will learn how to step back, detach and not get sucked into their drama. We will learn how to open the cage door and allow them to fly away and hopefully they will learn life's lessons and want to return to us. If they don't, we will be okay for we will have learned our lessons well and can survive on our own and create new lives for ourselves.
Let him go to find himself. Allow God to do the necessary work to repair his broken inner self. While God is working on him, turn the focus back on to you and your children. Reconnect w/old friends and begin to plan hobbies that you will enjoy to help pass the time. Don't allow him or the ow any additional space in your head, i.e., they aren't paying rent, so place them in a box and store it away for now.
It's now your time to spread your wings and rediscover the wonderful person that you are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
