I want everybody who looks at this to know that I've messed up big time by not following DB principles. I've "experimented" with everything opposite of DB and what is outlined on this forum and in the books is accurate.
My ex-gf who is still living with me upset me. I left for work rather than get into an arguement. She asked what happened and I told her I was upset but I was over it so she drop it b/c she wouldn't like the truth. She said the truth is what you tell when you want to be with somebody and you claim communication is important. I let her bait me into an arguement where I told her the truth. She got defensive and aggressive as I did my best to stay calm. She threw a bag at me and pulled it away when I went to look in it b/c of trust issues/snooping. Then as I kept my mouth shut she kept talking and attacking me but softened a little when I wasn't defensive.
Worst is, now she's telling ppl false accusations about me when she was the aggressive one. She is telling ppl she doesn't love me. I'm having to focus on me and remember to believe nothing they say and only half of what they do. I've had to really decide what kind of person do I want to be for me even if I don't get her back.
Follow the DB rules no matter how hard they are. You can see from everything I've done has lead to negative outcomes and how DB principles are spot on. Don't make your own mistakes, make your own miracles.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
