yes I think this would be very useful and helpful to do this. I too have kinda wondered if something like that should be started for the LBS, but had no idea how to go about it myself!
The early stages you stated are right! That's how I felt. I look back at that time now, which was a year ago and I don't know I lived through it. I felt like I was struck by lightning evey day. I was in a fog. I could barely eat, and would only be able to sleep well every 2 days after total exhaustion.
Ive had some interesting emotions come over me recently, and I was really wondering just what kind of stage it was. Possibly Acceptance I guess.
XH brought kids home from school to pick up their things for 2 nights. D9 told me she asked her Dad if she had to sit in the back seat on the way to their shopping trip for Halloween stuff because she always has to IF OW comes along. XH response was " I don't know".
I watched them all load up and pull out. XH appeared happier than I've seen him in a while, as did the kids. All 3 happy together for once, instead of seeing total discontentment.
Then it hit me, Again, but with more clarity than ever this time. It hit me all ove again just what XH had done, and who he had done this with. We were divorced. And he was taking our kids to his place to where he shares his life with this OW.
Serious insult to injury there.
He really did what he did. He really did it. He is capable of doing horrible things.
I cried all night long. Truly accepting what he had done.
And the next day I felt like I had just taken several more steps forward and had healed some more.
This has happened to me several times over the last couple months. I will go through spells where I just mourn it, without the total shock and disbelief of it all. I allow the emotions to wash over me. I cry, I get mad, I just let it come. And then after it passes I feel so much better.
