Victim No More

[LoisB]

Thanks Beatrice. I think I'm getting a better handle on his MLC "style" which helps me immensely as we plod on. What nuggets do I look for? I mean he's said all sorts of weird crapola. He's especially said alot of weird stuff about the OW.

In January, before I discovered the OW, he gave me this speech, telling me how unhappy he was and he didn't want to live at home and hated being home and thought of me as this huge burden in his life. I think I just figured out the bomb drop.

By then, he was already coming home at all hours drunk. So, I'm gonna say Replay had started some---he seems to do everything in tiny bits and then it grows---like a crescendo. The height of the replay crescendo (I think, was July, August,September)--something seems to have shifted a little. Maybe it's me. But, I get that he could cycle back and we could get a whole new round of fun Replay memories to put in the MLC scrapbook. Be kinda funny to keep one. In a sick sorta way.

He's definately the drop out. Which, yes, I see now has plenty of good points.

The affair became public in July. Up until then, he was a master at keeping it secret. Not sure if that means anything, but I know it's been hard on him since now everyone knows. He seems really hung up on people knowing. Gets all bent outta shape--even when I had nothing to do with them knowing.

Thanks Bea!

Heather