Well there are two ways to look at this then. Either he really did want to leave for a long time and then would turn around and pretend to love you and act like nothing was wrong. Or he actually didn't have these feelings until recently. Either way the solution is the same, right?
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So have you thought about what it was that either changed with your behavior, or maybe something that has always been a behavior that would make him feel this way? You can't do any 180s if you don't admit to yourself what needs to change.
Yeah, I have thought about it a lot. I do think it's a recent thing with him, although from my end it's always been a behavior that he didn't appreciate, me not letting things go in an argument when he asks me to lay off. And the arguing itself. We both do that, but I'm as much to blame. So that's what I'm working on changing. I know what needs to change, and that's what I'm doing a 180 on. I don't think I'll be different overnight, but I'm hyper aware of my faults. Normally I don't take full responsibility for the arguments, but I feel like in this instance maybe it's me who pushed him away after all. My not reacting to anything I've been witness to this past week is a 180 for me. Keeping quiet when I'd normally get into it. Listening. Being someone he'd want to be around. Earlier tonight was a little more tough, because I was feeling sensitive, and so when he came home and walked in the door, I didn't say hello. It just didn't feel genuine, and I didn't feel like acknowledging him each time I saw him today. So I just kept working. I went out tonight to eat with a friend, who said a week of not talking is nothing in the grand scheme of things. To me it's not nothing, but I can see the point.
