Husband (unfaithful) just told me he wants out.

[PeteWyo]

Well there are two ways to look at this then. Either he really did want to leave for a long time and then would turn around and pretend to love you and act like nothing was wrong. Or he actually didn't have these feelings until recently. Either way the solution is the same, right? So have you thought about what it was that either changed with your behavior, or maybe something that has always been a behavior that would make him feel this way? You can't do any 180s if you don't admit to yourself what needs to change.