If that is what you want, then I am happy for you. Now do me a favor and do NOT have any R talks with her. Let your ACTIONS show her the man that you are becoming.
Keep focusing on you. Keep GALing.
Do you have a date yet for the court stuff?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
We settled the initial hearing out of court. My L is preparing the answer to her filing. That is due this week. I assure you that I will not talk about R with her. I am very nervous.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I fear that living in the basement may make my sitch worse. Sure, I would have a chance to show her my changes, but at the same time, she now has a built in babysitter, the kids will be there more often, etc. She has also said numerous times that this would only be temporary - not a perm solution.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
The basement situation is now out. W said isn't a good idea. I actually agree with this. It was a shot at showing her the new me, but I can do it in other ways. I had to answer the D paperwork today, so today was tough. I am looking forward to the next few days with my D's.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
Found out today that she wants to give the dog away since I wouldn't be able to afford the deposit and monthly upkeep. W is also making Thanksgiving plans and Christmas plans with the kids. Another tough night for me.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
I am pretty new on the boards, but have been reading and wanted to give my support. I am also getting ready to do the legal stuff but my H and I are heading to court a week from Monday. I'm a nervous wreck also:( Ours is for our legal separation.
You mentioned the approaching holidays and that is going to be tough for me also. I want to keep my kids over both the upcoming holidays, but I also know its important they see H too:( I am not willing to do it jointly, as it will be too uncomfortable right now. I am trying to put my anger and hurt with him aside and realize that they need to see him , but its so easy to want to keep them away since I feel that he was the one who walked out. UGGG...
I agree with bond that you need to make plans also for your kids. Anyway, good luck to you. I will continue to read your posts. i also feel for you about your dog. I have 2 and they are part of my family.
I hope your today was better than yesterday.
M:36 H:36 D14, D11, Baby due in March M:15 T:18 Met OW: 3/12 H Moved out: 8/12 Legal Sep: 11/5/12
Hi Grateful, I'm sorry you might lose the dog. I hope your night isn't too bad after hearing from us supporting you on here. I know it's only words, but I hope it helps a little. I thought about holidays as well, and it makes me sad, so I try not to think about those. I hope you will figure out some plans of what you want!!
