Nope, not spitfire. Oldtimer with a new name. Not important, really.
As far as Cat, she's got a lot going on right now. But you will find that she will make you think. Sometimes it takes a few days for it to sink in.
You do have a choice regarding this journey. Many turn bitter and don't learn anything from it. Many don't do anything to figure out themselves. Some give up and walk away.
But those who choose to walk this path and do the work, well, either way it turns out you are better for it.
And yep, this is your time. Let him blow in the breeze right now. A few things that helped me was looking at people that I admired and figuring out why I did. I made a bucket list of sorts with big things and really small things on it. Classes I might want to take, places I wanted to go, things about myself I wanted to change.
You are thinking things through. That's good stuff.
