Got to agree on the snooping. When the ball starts rolling. I know the feeling of wanting to know what is going on, but usually one of two things happen when I snoop;
1:nothing or 2:get hurt more.

I told myself a couple of days ago that I would go for a certain time with no contact, no social media, nothing. It actually feels quite good so far.

In regards to your H being cold. Some years ago me and X broke up(lasted a month or two). We reconciled, but in the meantime I was completely shut off, ignored her completely and acted like I didn't care at all. In hindsight I don't really know why I acted this way, probably I was confused and needed space. I certainly didn't do it to be cruel or hurtful. I did infact care for her. This has helped me in my current sitch though, because I know that even if it seems like they don't give a rats @ss, it may not necesseraly be the case. Of course one can't know for sure, but it has helped me deflect those negative vibes.

Hope you manage to collect you thoughts and feel a bit better. Keep trying not to get too worked up over his actions, it will drive you crazy and certainly won't help. Hang in there!

Together for 8,5 years.
S2
Interest in OM.
She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out.
No signs of OM, not digging.
Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.