Hello Ladies Thanks for your tips Gosh I'm sleepy. Maybe I shld postpone? I don't mind if he canx. Bed, hot chocolate, book more appealing right now! I'd rather have NO R talk so I won't be initiating it
I'd prefer an easy evening, just catch up face to face but there's no denying the elephant, so I just wanted to be clear on where I was by practicing answers.
I will update later if I'm still awake! Otherwise tomorrow I remember when we first separated & I didn't see him for a month, I felt zero when we met up for a walk. This time its 2 months since we've seen each other.
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
Htxt: I'm not sure I'm going to make it tonight. Feeling v tired & abit grumpy.
Me: that's a shame, I was looking fward to catching up but we can raincheck if you'd rather
I'm scared. This is reminiscent of his pattern. Agree & then fold. Let down after let down after let down. want to give him benefit of doubt but this has happened too many times you'd think seeing me wld excite him but he can't be arsed
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
Htxt: Honestly - me too. Perhaps we can rearrange something on the weekend, if you have some free time? (17) Me: Hair 1400 Sat & Brighton Sun = Sat afternoon/evening? Or nxt Thurs? Don't suppose you fancy Jbond movie?(18) H:Could be a plan..(4) Me: Need to book, starts this w/e (6) H:2100 at xxx xxx: we can eat first? (8) Me: He11 yeah (2) H:I'll book it (3) Me: :)(1)
Totals H(32) Me(27)
The cinema he's booked is 30mins drive away. We don't go there anymore. It's where he first took me on a date...?
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
Hey Tumbling this seems like a great step forward! :-)
Remember, no expectations and enjoy the evening as it unfolds. I am very happy for you ((((( ))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thank you Busting and Tori for your positive responses. I am grateful to the Universe for letting me off tonight as I am so tired and to H for stepping up and offering a better first meeting.
We always communicate better across a table where food is involved! More relaxed, more generous to each other so we focus on hearing each other.
I am very pleased with what has occurred tonight I have no expectations other than a full belly, good company and to be entertained by a movie.
The evening you have planned sounds as if it could be fun and relaxed. I'm glad that you have no expectations other than full belly, good company and to be entertained by a movie. It's Saturday, right? You may need to review the "good company" bit though as he could still be feeling tired and grumpy. The other two expectations sound reasonable!
One thing puzzles me though and maybe I'm missing something. At 5+pm you wrote, "Gosh I'm sleepy. Maybe I shld postpone? I don't mind if he canx. Bed, hot chocolate, book more appealing right now!" But when he texted an hour later about not being sure he'd make it, you responded, " that's a shame, I was looking fward to catching up but we can raincheck if you'd rather". Were you just trying to be polite? It sounds a bit pursuing to me. Especially since you thought not seeing him tonight was more appealing, I'm curious about why you didn't say, "Actually, I was thinking just the same thing!"
Anyway, it obviously didn't harm your sitch as the outcome of the texting looks like a great plan. And, I really like that he texted more words overall
From his track record, is he likely to stick with the plans for your evening out? Or could he retract even with a booking?
It sounds to me as if you become more ambivalent about being with him as the possibility approaches. You sounded keener to me when you were waiting for his texts when he was away.
Hope you have a really good night's sleep.
PS I really liked your butterfly story for Tori!
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012
I think he'll stick with the plans, Tumbling. I hope you slept well last night.
I agree with Wendylon that you not only sound more ambivalent, but more indifferent. Does it matter to you if you save your M or not? This is important. Notice how you feel when you see him. Your body will give you cues to figure out your real emotions.
