Of the people who post on this DB site, how many are still married? (As the population for D is 50/50, so do DBers have better odds)
It's hard to tell, as MrBond said many people just quit posting and you don't know what happened. Some people come back some time later and say they reconciled, but that they quit posting because they didn't want to jinx it or they were concerned it wasn't going to last so didn't want to post anything about it! But certainly there are a lot of success stories on these forums, enough to give DB'ing a worthwhile effort.
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What is the average number of months it takes for WAS to either move toward a D OR to return home?
I can tell you the impression I've gotten from reading many, many threads on here. It seems like if the WAS doesn't push for D within a few months of BD then they seem content to just leave things in limbo for an indefinite time. Often if it goes more than several months it's the LBS that gets tired of waiting (or of the affair) and finally pushes for D.
As far as a WAS coming out of the fog, that seems to take somewhere between 6 months and a year on average. Of course some take less time and some take more, so unfortunately there's no reliable timeline for this.
MLCers can take much, much longer to emerge from the tunnel, more along the lines of 2 to 5 years. Frankly I don't know how LBS's of MLCers do it, when I read about how their loved ones turn into horrific monsters hellbent on making their lives as miserable as possible it's just hard to imagine dealing with that for years waiting for them to clear the tunnel. I have enough trouble dealing with my sitch and my W is nice! Hats off to those standers that stand and take all that!
