I want to drive up to him and slap him in the face and say you are a LOSER and you can't even face me and you are dating another woman while our M is not over yet!
So sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately he probably does view the M as over, so I doubt he sees anything wrong with what he's doing or feels he has to answer to you in any way.
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I feel so helpless I feel like I cannot do anything.
Well like we always say around here, the only thing you can work on is you. Detach. GAL. Sink all your efforts into yourself and they WILL pay off.
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He is having even more fun with the OW and why would he want to be back to me...
Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. You don't really know for sure. No R is all fun and games. Maybe it is initially, but at some point the bloom is off the rose and reality comes home to roost.
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He needs to face me and tell me what is going on.
And what would that gain, would it make you feel better if he did that? Would you smile at him and thank him for being honest with you? Or are you looking for an opportunity to rip him a new one?
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I feel really stupid he is living it up and thinking I don't know anything. He is such a horrible person to me now. I think my love for him is truly sinking if not dying. He is not the one I loved before.
Sounds like the anger talking. Just give yourself some time to adjust to this new development, and while you're adjusting make a commitment not to contact him or talk to him at all.
Originally Posted By: NinaNina
Does anyone think a surprise visit to him would do any good?
No. Not in your current state. Just try to relax, get out and walk or run and work some kinks out. Try not to dwell on it. Give yourself some time to recover before deciding your next step.
