Hey M. I see you've met my friend, Cat. She's one of the best.
I see that you are really thinking about things. That's great.
You see, the thing about all this, if you choose to really take the journey, is that you will be forever changed. And sometimes marriages get saved.
If you feel that your h is in a MLC and only you can really decide, then the very best thing you can do is let him walk this path. Your job is to get out of the way.
That's why we tell those new to this to concentrate on you. And so, you are right where you should be - looking inward.
It is normal for LBS's (hate that term, btw), to begin to question what their marriage was really like and whether or not there was real love there at all.
As you continue on, you will see that what you thought all along and what you feel now about it will start to come together and you will see your marriage more clearly then you ever have.
As far as h's go, some do that stuff, some dont. Some are verbal, some show affection. Neither one is right or wrong or better or worse. It is just what is.
But you will know in your heart that there was real love there. You were not imagining it.
So, you are doing wonderfully. And you are right where you need to be.
