So she is into this other guy and I want to win her back. She said its just easier to be with him. That he is good with sharing his emotions. She said she would go back to the couples councilor with me. That happens 2 weeks from now. How should I proceed to win her back? What method. I have "the divorce remedy" book. Thanks for your time.
Right now the big selling point of OM is that he is not you. He has problems of his own, but she doesn't see them yet. In time she will. Right now all you can do is work on yourself. Figure out what your contributions were to the marriage failing and do 180's on those things. Settle in for the long haul, this won't be fixed overnight or in a week or a month. It's going to take many months. Be consistent with your 180's. She will notice, but it will take time before she accepts that you really have changed and aren't just doing it to trick her into coming back to you. Also, work on GAL (get a life). Reach out to old friends, make new ones. Pick up old hobbies and new ones. Run, lift weights, cycle, fly a kite, build a model, work on your car, whatever makes you happy and takes your mind off the M even if only for a while. Read DR over and over again and work the principles into your life. Print out the DB 180 tips and review them daily to remind yourself what to do and not do regarding your W.
