To the best of my knowledge he is not currently sleeping with anyone else. I've been there and done that and that is a deal breaker for me. Now, of course, the question becomes, how do I know he's not sleeping around?

I don't.

But we're together practically 24/7. I'm not above snooping (yeah yeah, I know that's bad) and he KNOWS I snoop but has given me his email and FB passwords which makes me think he's indirectly telling me he has nothing to hide.

What is a "truth dart"?

And btw, heard back re the mattress question and it turns out that his father came down while H was getting ready for bed to give him detailed health accounts of both himself and MIL. They are both in their mid 80's and both have significant health issues. To paraphrase, the dad came to tell H "We're dying. Thought you should know. Good Night."

Soooo his not sleeping well is probably not the mattress and probably not because he's missing me either. frown

"Fix" him? Not so much. Remember, we haven't had M communications for a long time, and have none now. So more a way of sounding the depths. Seeing what/how he responds.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.