Very sad to be here but H says he is leaving

[brokenheart71]

I understand your points an recognize much of the advice from reading other's stories. One of my posts that did not show up said that aside from these 3 interaction he/we act completely normal. He calls and texts me several times a day to talk about really nothing. He is still playing words with friends with me. Other than we sleep in separate rooms, life is pretty normal. I know that I have lost my temper those 3 times and don't plan on doing it any more.
The other confusing part to me is that standing up for myself is a 180. There is basically no arguing in our relationship and never really has been - we've been too good at ignoring our problems. I have always been very accomodating and easy going with him having a lot of freedom to work and socialize (those often blur as he entertains clients a lot) without any questions or grief from me. I do think that he sometimes he sees me as a "martyr" that doesn't stand up for myself. Similar to how my mom acts which drives him crazy. He thinks she puts up with way too much crap from my dad and it too good to him (and I agree).
During our last conversation I said that I would not bring up our R for a month so we would both have some time to reflect and clear our heads. He said that I was being unfair to myself (again me not standing up for myself in hes eyes) but I have kept to it and plan to continue.

Brokenheart71